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14 Day Marriage Reset Email Course

Sylvia Tan Psychology Consultancy

SGD 29.00

A 14-day email course to break the cycle you're both stuck in — one small, research-backed shift a day, starting with just you.

THE 14 DAY MARRIAGE RESET Most marriage advice assumes both of you are sitting down together, ready to work on it. That's not where most marriages are. Most marriages have one person who sees the problem first. Right now, that's you. Here's the thing about patterns: they need both people to keep running. A marriage pattern is a dance. When one person genuinely changes their steps — consistently, for two weeks — the other cannot keep dancing the old dance, because their step no longer has yours to push against. That's what these 14 days do. Not scripts to change your spouse. Small daily shifts, drawn from the research on what actually predicts divorce — and what prevents it — in how you start conversations, respond under fire, reach for connection, and repair. Change your steps. The dance has to change. WHAT YOU GET One email a day for 14 days. Five minutes to read. One shift to make that day. Small enough to actually do. Specific enough to matter. Week 1 — Stop the Cycle (days 1–7) See the pattern you're both stuck in and stop feeding it. Why the first three minutes decide how every argument ends. The four behaviours research uses to predict divorce with frightening accuracy — and the antidote to each. Why your body stops you thinking straight mid-fight, and the pause that protects you both. And the small mid-fight repairs that matter more than the fighting itself. Week 2 — Rebuild the Bridge (days 8–14) Connection dies in small moments, and it's rebuilt there too. The tiny daily bids for connection that lasting couples turn toward — and struggling couples miss. Getting to know the person your spouse is now, not the one you married. Repairing after a fight without reigniting it. Finding what's actually underneath the argument you've had a hundred times. And the small rituals that make the reset hold long after day fourteen. WHO THIS IS FOR / NOT FOR This is for you if: You're married, struggling, and you want it to work You keep having the same fight — or you've gone quiet to keep the peace You're willing to change your own steps first, without waiting for your spouse to go first This is not for you if: You want scripts to fix or manage your spouse There is violence or abuse in your relationship — that is not a pattern to reset, and you need direct support. You've already decided it's over A note on doing this alone: your spouse doesn't need to know you're doing this, and they don't need to participate. The shifts are yours. What they change is theirs to respond to — and in my experience, they usually do. FAQ Is this couples therapy? No. It's a self-paced email experience built on solid clinical ground — the same research and frameworks I use with couples in the room — but it's for you, and it doesn't require your spouse's participation. What if my spouse doesn't change? The shifts you make are real regardless. Most partners respond when the pattern genuinely changes — but even where change is slower, you'll finish these 14 days responding from steadiness instead of the loop. That alone changes a marriage. Can we both do it? Yes — some couples each take the Reset in their own inbox. It works either way. It's built so one of you is enough, and two of you is faster. Is this based on real research? Yes. The Reset draws on four decades of observational research on thousands of couples — most notably John Gottman's work on conflict, repair, and connection — combined with twenty years of my own clinical practice. No hacks, no scripts, no pop psychology. What if things are really bad? If there is abuse, this program is not the right support, and this page says so plainly. If things are painful but safe, hard marriages are exactly who this is for. Do I get everything at once? No — one email a day. The pacing is the method. Patterns change through daily practice, not through reading ahead.